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By lucilla October 29, 2024
I began my journey as an educator over 20 years ago. At that time, I didn’t have formal training, but I possessed strong skills; I was among the few able to teach website development and photo editing software. It quickly became clear to both me and my employers that I had a talent for making complex topics easy to understand. It all came down to this: I wasn't truly happy until my students understood and mastered the topics. I consistently looked for ways to simplify my lessons, creating step-by-step processes and identifying specific tips that would lead to those pivotal "a-ha" moments for my students. I drew upon my own experiences with learning new software and applications to become a more effective educator. I continue this approach today as a mental and emotional health practitioner working with expatriates and organizations. I frequently draw on my experiences as an expat, immigrant, and English as a Second Language speaker to connect with my clients and navigate cultural differences, which often lie in the small details. A few weeks ago, I attended a short training session. The facilitator aimed to keep the atmosphere light and engaging by creating a trivia game based on a popular North American TV show. However, they didn’t consider that half of the participants were immigrants and might not understand the references. The rules of the game weren’t explained upfront, leaving many of us confused about how to participate. While the Canadian-born attendees responded with enthusiasm, we immigrants struggled initially. Thankfully, we eventually figured it out after a couple of rounds, but I couldn’t help but wonder if the experience could have been more engaging and educational for everyone involved. It emphasizes the importance of understanding your audience—their challenges and what pieces are missing from their puzzle. This is why, if you’re living abroad and seeking to improve your mental wellness, it’s crucial to find someone who shares your experiences as an expat. Look for someone who understands the same issues, triggers, and victories. A practitioner who can leverage their own journey for your benefit and truly see you in your uniqueness. The ultimate goal should be to establish a deep connection between you and your mental and emotional health practitioner. If you're living abroad and you've hit a slump, book a session with me. I use a mix of Emotional Freedom Technique, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Hypnotherapy and Emotional Intelligence to support my clients during they journey in a foreign country, so they can evolve and achieve their goals. To book a private session click here.
By lucilla October 29, 2024
Finding a good job when moving abroad can be challenging. By "good job," I mean one that aligns with your education, experience, and expertise. If you struggled to find such a position, it might be due to two main reasons: first, you may not understand how the hiring system works in your new country, and second, you might be applying your native cultural mindset to the job hunt. What works in your home country may not be effective in your host country. Understanding the workplace culture of your new environment is crucial for both job searching and job retention. Many talented, skilled, and educated immigrants take low-paying jobs simply because they lack "Canadian experience"—meaning they have not worked in Canada before. Employers often hesitate to hire immigrants because they are unsure if these new hires will understand the local system and adhere to its rules. This is why I am passionate about my role as a facilitator at the Workplace Language and Culture Hub, offered by the Immigrant Welcome Centre of Campbell River and funded by the Royal Bank of Canada. Alongside Chris Gunn, I work with talented immigrants aiming to advance their careers and integrate into Canadian workplace culture. My focus is on exploring the differences between their home country's workplace cultures and that of Canada. Through meaningful conversations and examples based on my experiences as an expat, I help my students examine soft skills, conflict resolution, unwritten rules, and cultural shock. Together, we shift their perspectives, as knowledge and adaptability are key to thriving in any new community. For example, when I first applied for jobs in Canada, I wished someone had told me that soft skills are just as important as hard skills and that they can be learned. In Italy, my resume simply listed my work experience and hard skills, without acknowledging my soft skills. I had them, but no one had taught me how to articulate them. As my career has evolved, I now dedicate extra effort to developing my soft skills while also documenting my success stories and achievements. I continually observe the workplaces I encounter, as there is much to learn from those around me. One of the reasons I do this is to share knowledge and experience with my students. I believe it's important for them to hear from someone who has faced similar challenges and uncertainties. We are all unique, navigating our adaptation to a new community while striving to remain true to ourselves. That is the beauty of being an immigrant.
By lucilla October 16, 2024
Have you ever felt that unsettling feeling of culture shock when moving abroad? It can be a bit overwhelming, but don’t worry—having some strategies in place can really help you stay mentally well. Let’s dive into that uneasy feeling of wondering if you made the right choice by moving to a new country. It's a tough cloud to navigate, but you’re definitely not alone. Whether you're an expat, immigrant, or digital nomad, almost everyone faces culture shock at some point. When you relocate, you typically go through something called the Cultural Adaptation Cycle. It often starts with the Honeymoon Stage, where everything is fresh and exciting! New places, sounds, and smells all contribute to a thrilling adventure. But soon enough, the constant need to adapt can become exhausting. You might start missing the comforts of home, and the differences in cultures can feel frustrating or even overwhelming. That’s when you hit the Slump, a challenging place to be. During this time, it's important to focus on your mental well-being. The great news? Many people go through this, and there are effective ways to help you out! Here are some of my top tools to pull you out of that slump: 1. **Journal It Out**: Write down your feelings and the situations that triggered them. For example, feeling stressed about finding a doctor in a new place? Getting your thoughts on paper can lighten your mental load and provide clarity. 2. **Reflect on Your Values**: Take a moment to list your core values and find ways to weave them into your new life. Remember, you don’t have to abandon what’s important to you while adapting to a new culture. Revisiting your values can give you a solid foundation as you navigate this new chapter. 3. **Try the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)**: This method can help you acknowledge your feelings and reduce stress. EFT offers both instant relief and a way to tackle deeper issues over time. 4. **Reach Out for Support**: Don’t hesitate to ask for help! Whether it’s chatting with a friend, counselor, or mental health practitioner who understands the expat experience, seeking support is a brave step. As you work through the Slump, you might discover that there are ways to embrace the host culture while still holding onto your authentic self. This part of your journey is often referred to as Realisation. And guess what? At the end of this cycle awaits the Adaptation Stage! You’ll learn to accept and appreciate the differences between cultures, and you’ll feel more confident navigating your new surroundings with emotional strength. Let me help you navigate the challenges of adapting to a new culture. That's exactly the space where I thrive with clients! Book a private session: https://tidycal.com/girottoconsulting/coaching .
By lucilla June 6, 2024
Today, let's talk about how immigrating to a new country can affect your mental health. Did you know that when immigrants first arrive in a new country, they are usually healthier, both physically and mentally, than people born in that country? This is good news, right? But as they spend more time there, their health starts declining. This is called the “healthy immigrant effect”. That is definitely NOT good news! Have you noticed this in your own life since moving to a foreign country? When I look at my time in Canada, I can see it's true. Getting older brings its own aches and pains, but adapting to life in a new country has also taken a toll on my mental health. That's why I decided to become a Mental and Emotional Health Practitioner – not just for myself but to help others too. If you're in a similar boat, I'd love to hear about your experience. Do you know where to turn for help when you need it? What tools or strategies do you use to support your mental and emotional well-being? If you're not sure, let's chat. I'm here to help and can create some free resources for you. One resource that you can use right now is my free guide " How to feel whole again while living in a foreign country ". The guide consists of three steps: reassessing your core values, identifying your triggers, and participating in a guided tapping session to lower your cortisol level and get in touch with your emotions. Remember, you're not alone!
By lucilla June 6, 2024
Work-related stress that is left unresolved over a long period of time has the potential to develop into burnout. Poor psychosocial working conditions (job stressors) can significantly increase the risk for mental health problems and illnesses, and it significantly impacts existing mental health problems and illnesses in working adults.).
By lucilla March 15, 2024
Yesterday, I attended my first post-Covid networking event, and I realized how good I was at it. I'm not ashamed to say it out loud because I had to learn that skill. As an introvert, it's getting harder for me to adjust as I age, but I'm proud of myself for stepping out of my comfort zone. I'm also an ESL (English Second Language) speaker, and networking for business was new to me before coming to Canada. I had never owned a business in Italy, so when I started my web and graphic design business in Canada in 2012, I had to learn how to network the Canadian way. With time, practice, and experience, it became easier for me to do it. I like people, but social events, especially those with lots of people, background noise, and short conversations, leave my mind racing and my body over-energized. It can be challenging to have a good night's sleep when my mind keeps going back to conversations and scenarios during the day. Do you ever experience the same thing? I bet you do. Anyway, when I came back home yesterday evening, I decided to take action and stop this nonsense. First, I went for a walk with my dog to burn down some extra energy that was making me extra talkative and annoying my teenage son. Then, I did a 15-minute tapping session and brought my racing mind level way down. My son was very thankful for that! Tapping is such an effective tool, and very easy to learn. It's an important part of my practice and it's included in my program about mental health in the workplace. More details on this program here. Would you be interested in watching a few videos that show you how to sue tapping? Let me know in the comments!
By lucilla March 9, 2024
Have you ever felt like gratitude is just a concept for believers? Well, let me tell you, as a former non-believer in gratitude, my perspective has changed. I've come to realize the immense power of gratitude in shaping our thoughts, actions, and ultimately, our lives.
By lucilla March 4, 2024
47% of working Canadians consider their job the most stressful part of their day, leading to disengagement, burnout, and reduced productivity. One in five Canadians experience psychological health issues each year.
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